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Comment on For married people who had both sexual and non-sexual intimacy issues (not enough of either) did you find that? by Jack, on safari

Jack, on safari — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 23:19:59 +0000

My wife wants more emotional intimacy from me; this translates to her wanting to discuss "feelings" all the time. I don't get it; she can't be in physical pain that much, so what are these "feelings" she keeps referring to? We go round and round about this. The net result is that I end up masturbating a lot.
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Comment on For married people who had both sexual and non-sexual intimacy issues (not enough of either) did you find that? by Purplegirl2 ♥'s Metallica

Purplegirl2 ♥'s Metallica — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 22:53:59 +0000

I haven't had intimacy in along time.... Just sex.. thats it!
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Comment on For married people who had both sexual and non-sexual intimacy issues (not enough of either) did you find that? by Starsfan14

Starsfan14 — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 22:19:59 +0000

No actually the reverse seems to be true now. At least from his stand point.

For a long time my husband and I were both very sexually distance from each other and emotionally distance. This went on for a couple of years. Between my illness and pregnancies and his change of jobs we just grew apart in so many ways.

Recently we have reconnected – it started off as an emotional connection then the sexual connection remerged. And now it seems like released an animal out of a cage. And he seems to want it constantly several times a day, every day. And before he could go months without asking and he would actually refuse me frequently during that time.

– you were probably missing the emotional side more than you thought. And now that you have it you are more satisfied. As it all needs to come together for good sex.
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Comment on For married people who had both sexual and non-sexual intimacy issues (not enough of either) did you find that? by Sara

Sara — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 21:30:59 +0000

Depends on the mood and your partner feelings
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Comment on For married people who had both sexual and non-sexual intimacy issues (not enough of either) did you find that? by alrozz

alrozz — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 20:58:59 +0000

When my wife refrained from sex and cut me off over a big argument that resulted in my talking to another girl too long at a party last year, she cut me off for two months. She refused to have sex with me and stuck to her guns and didn’t make me dinner and was nice to me verbally, but she meant what she said.

I told her let’s stop this child nonsense and make up. She replied "You seem to want that other girl so go for it, you don’t need me. I seen you smiling and talking to her like she was your wife and I’m your wife, you needed to be talking to me not her."

This was the conclusion to this escapade. I called the florist and had them send my wife six dozen Red Roses and the note read "To my loving wife, you were right and I was wrong, I’m so sorry please forgive me".

When I got home she grabbed me and gave me a big hug and made love to me like we just met 10 years ago.

Women are funny when it comes to sexual preference versus non-sexual preference which ever makes on or the other work it does work. Good Question!!
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Comment on For married people who had both sexual and non-sexual intimacy issues (not enough of either) did you find that? by Technologic

Technologic — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 20:51:59 +0000

I have no experience in an increase of either. Just a slow haunting decline in both. *sigh*
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Comment on For married people who had both sexual and non-sexual intimacy issues (not enough of either) did you find that? by Dr. House

Dr. House — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 20:06:59 +0000

You’ve gotten older and your drive has waned.

From an emotional perspective, sex counts as affection for men so it’s interchangeable.
(Not so much for women.)

Your wife is almost certainly holding back a great deal of emotion, violent amounts, to be so distant.
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Comment on Does couple therapy actually help? by mclovin

mclovin — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 08:39:59 +0000

My thing is if you are away from home take advantage. Yes couples theropy works. My older cousin and his wife did it and they are doing really well! I think it depends on the people. do you want it enough. People break up for the most stupid of things. You decided to get married for a reason and you have a child so please just try to make it work.
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Comment on Does couple therapy actually help? by Raymond

Raymond — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 07:59:59 +0000

Therapy is worth a try if you still love each other. You both have to listen and work though, I went through it and it didn't help as neither of us would follow though on the advice. I couldn't stay together even we have a son together, Good luck in life and happiness.
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Comment on Does couple therapy actually help? by Jade

Jade — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 07:18:59 +0000

Ive been in your situation, I have a 4 month old baby and before the baby, my husband and I were fighting non stop. Don’t blame all the problems on your hormones but they could be like 50% of the cause. Hormonal women tend to blow things out of proportion and when nothing is going right the whole world ends.
Now its also common for some women to be a glass half empty kind of person and for guys to be more positive. I mean if it weren’t for men like him some women would be emotional wrecks all the time, and its great that he is that way so he can be like your backbone or your support (if you understand where I am getting at) if your husband knows that your like this all sensitive he should know better and help you be stronger. Now have you told him this directly or hinting it off. You have to be direct with men and this I know because I have a husband who needs to be told things. Guys don’t like hints, its too much work for them.

Now your wedding don’t give up on it hunny, I know that day is supposed to be special and by what it sounds like you still want it. Talk about it, don’t sit there and not want to have a wedding just because your discouraged. Consider your husbands suggestion, I know you don’t want to be in a financial rut and not having money to spend but if your paying off bills and have them payed off by the time your wedding comes along it might not be much to pay off depending on how expensive the wedding ends up being. Also Saving money is also a good thing, try saving money and try to pay off your bills that way it doesn’t seem like your stuck in a rut. Now for your baby, you two are just going to have to face it, your parents now, and time is limited until your baby becomes independent. Your baby is going to put a lot of strain in your relationship and well that’s going to be forever. When you go back home enjoy your time, make your vacation time for you guys only not for anyone else.

If all fails then yes couples therapy is good and could help. You guys don’t seem to have problems that you cant fix.

Best wishes
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